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Relationship Counseling |
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When you
experience a painful relationship, it may color your
world gray. Whether it’s a relationship with your
child, parent, marriage partner or romantic
interest, there may be dynamics occurring of which
you are unaware.
Relationships define you, how you see yourself and
how you see the world. One of the first lessons in
life - how to trust - is something you can only
learn through relationship.
When your trust has been broken in the past, it can
impair your ability to function normally within a
marriage and other relationships.
As you
are complex, so are relationships complex. Many
dynamics form the unique ways you relate to each
person. As an unbiased third-party, I offer insight
and guidance as you make crucial decisions to effect
healthy relationships. |
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"Tonia has helped me and my husband so much. We never
could have made it without her."
- Krysti, California
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Relationship Information |
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You were made to
need relationships. Yet when your trust has been
broken, you may fear closeness or connection. You
arrive at the conclusion that it is safer for you to
be distant in order to avoid getting hurt. It is
possible to be in a room full of people yet to be
completely alone. Isolation is painful and damaging
to your soul.
So if isolating
your heart isn’t the answer, what is?
You need connection
with others. It is food for your soul. But you need
to choose safe people with whom you can share your
vulnerabilities. There are characteristics and
qualities to look for in people that are worthy of
your trust. In our meetings together, you can
discover the types of people that can be deemed
safe.
Ingredients Of A Healthy Relationship |
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1. Realism
In healthy relationships no emotions, problems or
issues are denied, ignored or avoided from being
discussed. Everything is open, honest and based on
reality.
2. Honesty
Relationships are built on trust. Trust comes from
truth. There is no place for secrets or dishonesty.
Lies, denials and secrets break trust. Mending of
broken trust is not easy. Enduring growing
relationships are created by truth.
3. Friendship
The basis of all relationship is friendship. This
includes relationship between spouses, parent and
child, lovers, friends. Without friendship, even
passionate romance cannot endure because the risk to
use each other then becomes exploitation.
4. Security
Everyone needs at least one true friendship
(relationship) to feel safe and secure. Love is the
key to true security in relationships. Love is the
opposite of fear.
5. Vulnerability
Relationships die where there is cautious and
guarded wariness. Relationships can grow where there
is freedom to be vulnerable. This requires trust and
confidence that our hurts, dreams, secrets are
safely kept by another. Then we can disclose our
deepest selves without fear.
Each of these ingredients is intertwined with the other.
Realistic, open, true relationships are honest.
Honesty fosters trust. Trust results in security -
lack of fear- love, which allows freedom for
vulnerability
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Like a
runner passing the baton, my heart's desire is to pass
to you
the hope I received. You don't have to be
alone.
Let's begin this
journey together.
Tonia Gibson
Counselor/Christian Life Coach |
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